Mistakes that can be avoided.
- Bridesmaids being too far away. They need to stand roughly 2 feet from the bride. At one wedding outdoors the bridesmaids were about 6 feet away and weren’t in any of the pictures. This means as the officiant, I had to pause in the ceremony and ask them to move closer. The first one up, sets the spacing, make sure she knows where to stand.
- Don’t have the rings in boxes, and don’t throw the empty box at the officiant’s feet!
- Don’t stand with your backs to your guests, at least be facing your intended so that they can hear and see you. Light candles from behind the table, not from in front, again so that they can see and hear you.
- Think of it as a show of a lifetime and you are the stars, they are there to SEE you.
- Let the bridal party have copies of the processional music so that they can listen to it and get a feel for the pacing.
- Don’t have the groom and officiant up front too soon. If it’s a long walk for the bride, get someone to cue the groom to walk to his place when she is at an optimum point in her journey so that he doesn’t have to endure the ‘standing up alone in front of all the guests who are trying to see if he is nervous’ scenario.
- If the venue are taking care of things like the unity candles and suchlike being in place and/or lit, ready for use etc., have a member of your team go round and check that everything is a go before the bridal party start down to aisle. Many times things are overlooked at the altar in the heat of the preparations for the processional.
- Don’t have the men all standing with their hands in front of them. Their hands naturally fall in what a professional photographer informed me is ‘the fig leaf’ position. They will be seen from the side, and a straight arm or hand in pocket looks better in the pictures.
Relax, enjoy the day, and most of all, enjoy your love!